Outing Myself..

I've decided to out myself.  It's time to confirm what all of you have suspected for many years.  I. Am. A. Heterosexual.   A female who likes males.  A female who identifies with being female.

Now,  doesn't that sound ridiculous for me to write that?  And isn't it just as ridiculous that if someone is born gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender,  or whatever other permutation mother nature lays on us, that person must, at some point in his/her life make a declarative statement about one of the most intimate parts of one's life?

This past week a African-American NBA Basketball player came out.  This led to an article in our local paper listing other athletes who have had to declare their sexual orientation.  Now I can understand telling your family--"Um Mom, how do you feel about gaining another daughter instead of a son?" It's  the thing you do with families--it is the inner circle where we learn to define and accept ourselves.  Even us heteros have go through that.

Then moving on out the circle, there are friends--and of course we tell our close friends all those important things, like, who we have a crush on, or if we are conflicted, or confused or need support.

Beyond that--I say it's nobody's damn business. Not because there is something wrong with who you love, but exactly the opposite.  There is nothing wrong with who you love.  You love who you love.  You lust, who you lust.

It starts with us.  Those of us who love someone who loves someone of the same gender need to start treating it as No Big Deal.  My grand daughter  has two Mommies.   I refuse to explain that anymore to anyone.  It is simply the way it is.  I will admit that saying "We are going out to visit our daughter and her wife" is always an exercise in practiced casualness.  No, it is not what people expect to hear when you start the sentence, but I truly believe if I say our family's truth and your say your family's truth, what was once a Big Deal is now a So What?  And then one glorious day, maybe, everyone will be "out" because where else would we be?